Qualities I Look For In A Boy

Let me just preface this by saying that there is a difference between guys, men and boys.
Guys are your friends, or the smelly, noisy, silly males in class. Guys never appear on your romantic radar because, well, they're the guys (sometimes referred to as 'the boys', not to be confused with just 'boys')! Guys are either idiots or good buddies- nothing more.

Men are your Dad's mates, the construction workers down the road and the teachers at school. They are also never (or should never be) seen in a romantic sense. Boys can turn into men but guys are always guys.

That leaves us with boys. These are the ones that make your stomach do flip-flops, send your heart beating two million times a minute and somehow manage to turn your knees to jelly and tongue tie itself into more knots than you'd see at a scout convention.

It is this third group on which I shall be focussing this post today. I have been noticing a crazy amount of couples blossoming around me and it's starting to worry me. As happy as I am for my buddies to be pairing off, it does magnify just how much I am lacking in the luuuurrrvve department. This has inspired me to write a list of the qualities I personally look for in a potential suitor, a beau, a better half, a lover or more simply, just a boy...

1) Sense of humour- life is so often depressing and overwhelming that you need someone in it to make you laugh and see the lighter side of things.

2) Confidence- I've never been one to be attracted to the brooding, silent type hulking in the corner of the room. Give me a boy who loves to have a good time with a loud personality any day. I love to have fun, so someone equally fun-loving is vital to my sanity! I don't want to be dragging him onto the dancefloor or up to the kareoke machine everytime we go out!

3) Loves his family- this one is non-negotiable. If you don't love your mum and sister, don't bother coming over to this side of the room. The way a boy treats the women in his family is so indicative of the way he will be treating you in a few short months or even years.

4) Communicative- I'm not asking for him to share his deepest, most inner-most feelings with me every night. I just want him to talk to me about everything and anything he wants to share- silly, serious or scary. I want him to want to talk to me, and to feel as though he can talk to me.

5) Loves AFL- I'm sorry, but this is another non-negotiable point. I couldn't stand to be with someone who doesn't understand why I love watching 22 men pull on their black and white Collingwood jumpers and kick an oval-shaped ball through over-sized matchsticks called goals every week. (On a side note- one reason (a very, very minor reason in a multitude of much more serious reasons) my last relationship ended was that the guy (yes, I call him a guy now- see above definition) thought that Collingwood legend Nathan Buckley was a St. Kilda player. My jaw hit the floor. That's a deal-breaker right there.)

6) Loves kids and animals- Clearly I am just a soft, soppy girl at heart! But these characteristics show a lot about a boy.

7) Treats his female friends well (see point 3).

8) Is opinionated- I want someone who I can argue with, who will get me angry and fired up and passionate about a cause. A meek, agreeable-type is not for me.

9) An adventurous spirit- I'm looking for a boy who wants to experience life and have stories to tell, one who is looking for an adrenalin rush and wants to travel the world so we can tell our grandkids about the fun we had that time in Peru... perhaps I'm getting a little bit ahead of myself now, but you get the picture!

10) He must love me for me. OK, let's look at the first part of that. "He must love me"- I have no interest in wasting any more time pining over a guy who doesn't know I exist. It's just not worth it, when there are soooooooo many other great boys out there just waiting for their chance to meet me and fall in love. The second part of that- "love me for me" is huge. If he wants or tries to change me in anyway, it's adios amigo faster than you can say no way Jose and helllllooooo to the next nice boy in line.

So there you have it, the ten qualities that (off the top of my head) are some of the most important for the lucky boy who will get to have me to possess (:

Have a great night, love and kisses to all.

Love from,
(a loved-up) bubblygirl
xoxo